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Originally Posted by Peanut
I hope you are able to work everything out for the best interests of your daughter.
The only flip side I would present is that it sounds like it took the better part of 3 years to even come to an agreement. It's got to be tough on your daughter to be living through this as well and coming back to try and negotiate a new agreement when you apparently just signed off 2 months ago... I dunno. Your ex is going to be pissed, and it's going to continue to drag things out for your daughter.
Have you and your ex actually sat down with a mediator together in the same room to establish a custody plan? Screw the lawyers (no offense, troutman), jointly retain a mediator, and work something out expediently to both of your satisfaction with a mediator. A (good) mediator will keep your child and what's best for her as the focus. I can't speak highly enough about mediators. The mediated parts of my divorce were settled within months. The part we argued about through lawyers took 3 years to finalize.
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It's gone on since April 2012, so its been just over a year. I've tried to involve a mediator but she has refused that or to discuss things before it went to legal means. I want what is best for my daughter, but the problem is the reason I was informed in the first place was financially motivated. Her bf of 7 years was hit by an unfavorable ruling, after leaving his wife and two kids for the mother of my kid.
The problem is I only want what is best for my daughter, and she wants me out of the picture completely. It's that simple. It's very very difficult to deal with someone who has never worked, lived at home until they were 29, continue to get a monthly allowance, a house, car, legal fees all paid by her parents. It's arguable she would have been pissed no matter what happened, as her health isn't that great (she is now over 300 pounds, when I dated her in 2002, she was 150), and rarely ever leaves her house, with the curtains up. It's no way to live, and it's showing in the demands she is making, which are pretty much one sided.
I mean really, how do you deal with someone who won't let your daughter play sports, since she says "it damages their self esteem" orr will not let me talk to her, since "cell phones cause cancer in children." Sigh. Sorry for the rant but it's like I feel I am talking to a brick wall anytime I try and work things out with the mother.