This thread is already so filled with hostility, but I do understand the OPs point about the imagery thing. I was raised with Christian values/ethics without any of the ideas of Christ's martyrdom being the sole purpose of his existence, so I'm already sympathetic with what he's talking about. That being said, he's pretty insulting with how he talks about things, so I'm not really on his side.
I will say however that I wish that they would stop using the symbology of his torture and death to convey their message. It's more than just the violence, it's what the imagery of violence stirs up in people. Let's not forget that passion plays used the images and process of Christ's torture and crucifixion to stir up anger and violence in Christians against others, Jewish people specifically. Now that I am married to a Jewish woman I take offense to these images. This is obviously personal to me and I don't expect them to change their whole faith just for my convenience, but I sure wish they would focus on the positives instead of the negatives.
To me the positives of Christianity are pretty much the teachings of Christ coupled with the spirituality of divine forgiveness. If you need that symbol to remind you of the forgiveness part, then so be it, but to me the real symbol of forgiveness is Christ's resurrection since it was God bringing his son home to him so to speak. Since the faith believes we are ALL God's children this is a metaphor for our own resurrection into heaven. So I agree that I think the symbol for the church should be Christ teaching or Christ's resurrection, rather than his death.
Maybe a little more like this?
Even the famous Gandhi saw the value of Christ being his teachings, and he even implemented them with his non-violent resistance to the British in order to create the changes he wanted. I will leave you with a famous Gandhi quote: "I like your Christ. I do not like your Christians. They are so unlike your Christ." When I read that I wonder if Christ would approve of the image of him on the cross being the main image of the faith.