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Originally Posted by FlamesAddiction
What do you do?
My dad has been fighting cancer for several years now, but there has been very rapid deteriation in the past week (went from being fine to death bed really fast). The doctor called me today and said they ordered compassion measures and figures he has a day or so before passing.
This is the first time that I have to deal with this sort of thing where I am going to be responsible for everything and I just don't know where to start. My sister and I are his only living relatives in Canada and she is as clueless as I am. Does the hospital do the cremation? Will I have legal access to his apartment, mail (he has a post office box), his bills - will I have authority to cancel everything?
There seems to be a lot to think about and since I can only take a short time off work and he is out of town, I have to try and be efficient yet I can barely remember how to do little things right now (my mind is on autopilot). Is there a checklist or anything? If anyone has dealt with this kind of thing, can you give me any tips on things that are easy to overlook, I would love to know. This is one thing they never teach you in school.
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Sorry to hear.
My father passed ten years ago and I was in the same position.
In the first moments, its about seeing he's cremated and arranging the service and notification of the service. Then, it moves quickly and perhaps simultaneously but secondarily to understanding the current financial situation. Then the long game, disposition of assets and property.
In the next few days though, take care of what's important, making sure he's honoured and bid farewell properly.
My two cents.
Best wishes.
Cowperson