First of all, why is she with him? Does she think that having 4 kids is a problem? Most guys won't go into a relationship with that kind of responsibility. She needs to understand where she is and why she is doing what she is doing before she can either adjust or stay where she is. If you are willing to invest in her financially then she is certainly worth investing in emotionally so ask her. Where does she see herself in the next five years. Where is he? Where are they? After such a talk I am sure doors will open or understandings will be made. / Confucius
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