Lending money to a friend.
What is your take on helping a friend out?
I have a friend (my best friend actually) and she has fallen on some rough times. She has 4 kids and her bf is in my words a deadbeat, he is lazy and very unmotivated to do anything to improve the situation. I am doing renovations and have offered work for cash on numerous occasions. He has refused every offer.
My bffs mom is very well off and what I cant figure out is why my friends mom wont help her daughter out. When I asked my friend she gets a bit defensive and upset. I know my friend of under a lot of stress right now, so much in fact she is on medical stress leave from work. Her bf is not working a steady job so they live very lean.
I can afford to help them out the money is not really a concern to me however what I dont want to happen is to lose a dear friendship.
I have asked how much she needs but she only says whatever you can afford. To me it sounds like she needs a fair chunk of change but I also know her and speaking about money is an uncomfortable topic.
To prevent losing a friendship what I was considering was just buying a bunch of groceries for them and maybe slipping her $500. $500 is an amount id be ok with never seeing again. I feel if I lent her more and she had issues paying me back id be a bit upset and I am just not prepared to lose my best friend over some money.
The only thing that really makes me question things is why wont her mom help her out. I will say I do know her mother and she is pretty self centred and nasty so her refusal to help her daughter is not really a shock to me.
Any ideas/advice?
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