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Originally Posted by Bigtime
What is the deal with all these "kid free" weddings? And the etiquette as a "kid carrying" adult to reply to an RSVP when I can't make it due to kid related reasons.
Some back story:
I had a friend have one of these weddings, and the date was a week after our due date for kid #2. No problem for kid #1 to spend the day/night at the grandparents, but we asked about showing up with a newborn, and were told "no".
I couldn't help but feel that was completely ridiculous, and as a result of not going I have one less friend of facebook (he de-friended me). So stupid.
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Had a kid free wedding myself - it was at a winery and weren't able to accommodate kids for a bunch of reasons. It's a slippery slope - one person shows up with a newborn, and the next person goes "Well how come they got an exception!".
Bottom line - some people want kid free events. In your situation I think you just tell them your situation - "Can't make it due to newborn, sorry". Send them a nice card and all should be well.
We had several people opt out for this reason and we completely understood. Just be sure to acknowledge their wedding in some other form - be it a card or something else. While you might have had your "big day" a number of years ago, it's in the now for them and you should still try and acknowledge it somehow.