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Originally Posted by Hi-Psi
One point she has stated is that one reason she doesn't want to live in Calgary is that she doesn't want to have to buy a home twice, she basically wants to buy the house now that she can raise a family in. I've said though that we can always buy something in the city now and then as kids are born we can then look at buying outside the city or on the outskirts or whatever as this is still 3-5 years down the road. She's worried though that if she gives in and moves to Calgary that I will never change my ways and we'll never move to that "country" home and she'll end up giving up something that was very important to her.
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How much of this is about her living in her country home and how much of this is about her wanting you to 'change your ways'? Is this a passive agressive way of essentially saying that you and your life in Calgary is actually her problem as opposed to the city of Calgary being her problem?
I can't for the life of me understand how someone who works part-time in Wetaskawin, in a line of work that's essentially available everywhere, would insist that her long-term boyfriend be uprooted from his family and friends to live in a city of 100,000 people (Red Deer), which essentially has the same housing and community features for rearing children as Airdrie. From what you've posted it seems to me this isn't about raising kids in a 'country home' because you can do that within a 45 minute drive of your friends and family in Calgary and she can get work close to here too.
Maybe the right conversation to have with her isn't about specific location, but rather how you live your life together currently and how both of you see that changing over time as you get older together. Maybe once you see how she views the world you can ascertain whether or not you actually want to fit into that world.