To move to another city for your GF or not?
Hey guys,
I have a question for you guys to discuss and provide input for. My GF and I have been together 4.5 years and we are getting to a crossroads and unsure how to proceed. We currently do not live together due to work and a few other things but we used to live together and loved living together at the time.
She works in Wetaskiwin and lives in Red Deer. I work out of town(Fly in/out) and live in Calgary. We are wanting to move back in together but with her work, she doesn't want to live in Calgary. I DO NOT want to live in Red Deer. I have no friends there, no family and I generally hate the place, it's not nice, has an over abundance of ######bag oil workers and just doesn't have anywhere the appeal of Calgary. It comes down to either me living in Red Deer and having no friends, no family and no real desire to be there or we live in Calgary where the majority of our friends are, my family is and where I personally want to live.
Her family is closer to Red Deer and she does have some friends in Red Deer.
At this point we don't know what to do. She would love to live in Calgary if not for the 2.5 hour drive to work(She works 2 days on/4 days off) but she also does not want to raise a family in the city and thus we would have to move out of the city before doing so.
She feels that I'm being selfish by not compromising and moving to Red Deer but I honestly just can't see what's in that move for me other than being closer to her. While that is important to me, my friends are also very important, we are literally out with our friends 2-3 times a week whether it be for wing nights, hockey games, birthdays or whatever.
Has anyone been in this position before and if so, what did you do?
Jason
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