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Originally Posted by Plett25
[/LIST] That was a pretty good list (especially the going for groceries part) but I'm not sure I agree with this one.
My wife and I don't have identical interests, opinions and personalities. We do have very similar values and backgrounds. We're definitely not exactly alike, but I wouldn't describe us as opposites. We're complementary.
They aren't trivial differences either. She's very organized/structured/disciplined. I'm a spur-of-the-moment/think-outside-the-box/go-with-the-flow kind of guy. I appreciate the structure she brings to my life and I'm pretty sure she appreciates the spontaneity I have brought to her life.
We both have a deep commitment to each other and our family.
Here's a real world example... she reads novels and always has a dozen of them on hold at the library. When I read, it is usually non-fiction and I practically pull a book off the shelf at random. But we both like to read and spend time at home in each other's company.
If one of us liked to stay home and read and the other liked to go clubbing, I don't think that would work.
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Yeah, that is sort of what I was trying to condense. You did a much better job. Similarly, my girlfriend likes to paint, and I like to write. We can do both in the same room. We both like to go to the gym, but my girlfriend is far more athletic than I will ever be.
I think complementary is important, but to be that way, you need a lot of similarities not to think the other person is a weirdo. Because, generally, when you reach a certain level of intimacy in a relationship, you basically get exposed to every single irritating aspect to a person, and you've got to be okay with that. It's also better to think those things are hilarious. Like, hearing my girlfriend blow her nose like an elephant in the shower every morning.