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Originally Posted by peter12
- We share almost identical interests, opinions, personalities, basically everything. It is important to be with someone almost exactly like you. Opposites do not attract. There are certainly small differences that make life more enjoyable, but you have to share fundamental premises.
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That was a pretty good list (especially the going for groceries part) but I'm not sure I agree with this one.
My wife and I don't have identical interests, opinions and personalities. We do have very similar values and backgrounds. We're definitely not exactly alike, but I wouldn't describe us as opposites. We're complementary.
They aren't trivial differences either. She's very organized/structured/disciplined. I'm a spur-of-the-moment/think-outside-the-box/go-with-the-flow kind of guy. I appreciate the structure she brings to my life and I'm pretty sure she appreciates the spontaneity I have brought to her life.
We both have a deep commitment to each other and our family.
Here's a real world example... she reads novels and always has a dozen of them on hold at the library. When I read, it is usually non-fiction and I practically pull a book off the shelf at random. But we both like to read and spend time at home in each other's company.
If one of us liked to stay home and read and the other liked to go clubbing, I don't think that would work.