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Originally Posted by Pizza
So a couple of guys in our circle of friends got married in the last year and after a recent night of a case of beer and some rum and cokes, the two finally admitted that a huge reason why they married the girls was because they were afraid they'd be lonely for the rest of their life. They've always had that fear of never finding another girl who'd marry them.
The first guy is a complete shy and anti-social type, and although we're happy that when he did find a girl like him, we got a little worried when he proposed not even a year in. We're starting to see that she's the quiet controlling type. He's not allowed to go to pool halls, limited to only one drink a night and not allowed to play video games. 10 months later, She seems bored with him. She starts going clubbing without him and meets another guy. New guy and her becomes "friends" and starts hanging out with the couple. A lot. Although he wont admit it, you can visibly see that he's bothered by it but wont speak up.
The Second guy isnt as quiet as the first one, but certainly has insecurity issues. The girl he married, although seemingly nice, she is a planner. She has a plan of how he's going to propose to her, how their wedding is going to look, how their house is going to look and the names of their 3 kids. Ever since they screwed up the colour of the vests on the groomsmen, she's been a non stop princess who's always complaining. Fast forward months later and he's grown a backbone and starts arguing back. Now its where its almost every time we see them.
I'm not going to meddle so I'm not looking for advice, but I am curious how a married couple like them would look in couple more years.
Have any friends who are like this and are still stuck in marriage?
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Love is a battlefield. Pat Benatar was right.
In both instances, the wives don't respect the husbands. They've acquired objects versus relationships.
The first guy is doomed. It's already over. He's lost her, even as he may have never had her in the first place.
The second guy is gaining confidence and fighting for respect while the wife is getting confused, not quite understanding why her normally compliant pile of puddy is no longer in the mold she envisioned. She's on her way to becoming an equal partner in the relationship versus the dominant personality. That will be better for her in the end but she's probably not liking it at the moment.
I lived the second scenario, like a lot of guys apparently, and 28 years later it's a partnership with equal respect.
If you're lucky, your wife will eventually become your closest confidant and best friend.
Cowperson