Marriage is a funny thing, which admittedly I know nothing about. A lot of my friends/colleagues who have been together for a long time are getting married these days. From my perspective some have strong stable relationships and I think will ultimately make it, others I’m not so sure. I don’t know how things works from a women’s perspective but it seems to me most guys who get married at a younger age come from a perceptive or sacristy. They think that this girl is the only one who will give them the love attention they want and if they lose her they will somehow die alone. They propose to keep a good thing going and lock down the situation, but after the glamour of the wedding day wears off both are left bored and wanting more.
I used to come from the scarcity perspective to. When you are a young man unless you are exceptional in some way women are hard to come by, so when you get one you have to keep her. At this stage in the game women hold almost all of the cards. Now I’m a decent looking guy in my mid-twenties, with a solid stable career, a decent income, my own place, a nice vehicle, and most importantly knows what I want and where I am going. These days women are MUCH easier to come by, and table starts to tip in your favor. Instead of a perspective of scarcity you come from a place of abundance with women. For a guy I think this is a healthy place to be because when you finally decide to settle down with that one special gal you’ll know that you did it because you chose her from the hundreds of other women out there who you could be with, and not because you feel like without her you’d die alone. That’s my two cents anyway.
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