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Originally Posted by dissentowner
I understand that. The mother thinks there can be something there if I wanted to try, I don't think there is. I guess I have decided that if I have to sacrifice finding someone for me to be there all the time with my son I am willing to do that right now. I guess down the road things could get tough though. I don't know, right now I am comfortable like this, focused on my career. She asked that we not see other people in this arrangement and I am ok with that. I know all the sites and have a capable hand, lol.
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I tried to live in your situation for a while, basically roommates but you really can't date anyone else, it's awkward for you and awkward for the person dating you. Eventually it made me a worse father. For the last year and a half we've been separated and living 6 blocks apart. Our son goes back and forth. Week on and week off. One thing I can say is that since I'm happier, I'm a lot better father these days. I enjoy my time with him and I enjoy my time without him. Life is even better since she now has a bf, she can only have enough time to harass him I guess! She tends to leave me alone. We barely speak unless it's to do with our son.
Good luck, I just can't see what you are doing ending in a good way. My son was 2 1/2 when we split, he to this day knows no different and will most likely just assume this arrangement to be a part of his normal life. It will be a lot tougher split on your child if he's 5 or older as he will know the difference.
I'm a big believer in you can't make others happy, unless you are happy yourself.