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Originally Posted by GomerPile
I agree - it is only as big a deal as you want to make it.
I got married this summer, the only advice I have. If there is money- even a little - coming from your parents or your soon to be inlaws. Remember it is you are your wifes's day, don't start making concessions or changing things to be more ridiculous then they need to be for someone else. Or scale down something becuase someone makes a comment.
We wanted a super low key 250 person wedding, we succeeded but not without a few battles about "traditional things" and bs like that. As far as I could tell when I went to be at 330 am and people were still partying, everyone had a great time.
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Disagree. If you want it your way, pay for it yourself. If somebody is giving you money and you're accepting it, that buys them a voice (as it should).
Weddings also aren't "your day" unless you are a selfish prick. Time off is valuable to people, so if you're asking people to attend I think it's incumbent upon you to ensure they'll enjoy themselves. Keep the speeches to a minimum (nobody wants to sit there for hours while you and a handful of others jerk you off), keep the ceremony short (nobody on earth likes wedding ceremonies), serve the food at an appropriate hour (not super late), etc.
Also, don't disappear for a couple hours with the wedding party to take photos somewhere while all your guests sit around twiddling their thumbs. That's the definition of rude.