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TheGrimm · 11-30-2012, 08:33 AM

First off... Congratulations! My biggest piece of advice is simply remember it's just one day. You should enjoy it, but expect there will be hiccups and drama, and just roll with it. If you are expecting that everything has to go smoothly you are in for way too much stress for a day that should be about having fun!

1 - How do you feel about a Friday wedding? If that is the day you want, go for it, but at the same time understand that if people decline to go you can't really hold it against them.

2 - How do you feel about a long weekend wedding? I have no issues attending long weekend weddings, especially when it's a bit of a destination, it makes the whole weekend feel a bit less rushed. We are attending a wedding this summer in Sandpoint over a long weekend and decided to rent a cabin for the whole week, just to be able to make a holiday out of it. The only caveat here is that you may end up paying a premium for venues and services.

3 - When it comes to first cousins, how do you weed them down to the number you want. These are the most tenuous issues with weddings. I have a very large family and we ended up choosing a venue based on our numbers rather than cutting them down. I tend to be a pushover on this front as I would feel bad excluding anyone without appropriate cause.

4 - If a first cousin got married and you werent invited because either A it was rushed due to an "unexpected bun in the oven" or B they are cheap and introverted and only had a justice of the peace marry them with their parents what is your obligation to invite them if you are inviting their siblings who invited you to the wedding? See above.

5 - I have about 16 guests that I am not sure will come or not and I would rather not wait until 2 months before I know if they will come or not, are "save-the-date" letters acceptable forms of intial weeding out? In your invitations you set an RSVP request and a date, if they don't respond by that date you have to assume they aren't coming. That is the most common way I've seen.

6 - What would you say are the top 10 highest costs for a wedding?
Mostly covered by others.

7 - What are some of the questions you would ask the reception location/caterer? Most venues that host these types of events hammer through those details when you meet with them. If you are worried a quick google search will find you a bunch of questions you can ask.

Regarding the cheap photographer route, I may be slightly biased as my wife is a photographer, but I too would be leary of cheaping out here. Photos (and possibly videos) are really the only thing from that day that you will continually look back at. It's not like your wife will be wearing her wedding dress to formal events and you aren't likely to have your wedding cake decorating your living room for the next decade or two.

11-30-2012, 08:33 AM	#42
TheGrimm Scoring Winger Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: In a van down by the river Exp:	First off... Congratulations! My biggest piece of advice is simply remember it's just one day. You should enjoy it, but expect there will be hiccups and drama, and just roll with it. If you are expecting that everything has to go smoothly you are in for way too much stress for a day that should be about having fun! 1 - How do you feel about a Friday wedding? If that is the day you want, go for it, but at the same time understand that if people decline to go you can't really hold it against them. 2 - How do you feel about a long weekend wedding? I have no issues attending long weekend weddings, especially when it's a bit of a destination, it makes the whole weekend feel a bit less rushed. We are attending a wedding this summer in Sandpoint over a long weekend and decided to rent a cabin for the whole week, just to be able to make a holiday out of it. The only caveat here is that you may end up paying a premium for venues and services. 3 - When it comes to first cousins, how do you weed them down to the number you want. These are the most tenuous issues with weddings. I have a very large family and we ended up choosing a venue based on our numbers rather than cutting them down. I tend to be a pushover on this front as I would feel bad excluding anyone without appropriate cause. 4 - If a first cousin got married and you werent invited because either A it was rushed due to an "unexpected bun in the oven" or B they are cheap and introverted and only had a justice of the peace marry them with their parents what is your obligation to invite them if you are inviting their siblings who invited you to the wedding? See above. 5 - I have about 16 guests that I am not sure will come or not and I would rather not wait until 2 months before I know if they will come or not, are "save-the-date" letters acceptable forms of intial weeding out? In your invitations you set an RSVP request and a date, if they don't respond by that date you have to assume they aren't coming. That is the most common way I've seen. 6 - What would you say are the top 10 highest costs for a wedding? Mostly covered by others. 7 - What are some of the questions you would ask the reception location/caterer? Most venues that host these types of events hammer through those details when you meet with them. If you are worried a quick google search will find you a bunch of questions you can ask. Regarding the cheap photographer route, I may be slightly biased as my wife is a photographer, but I too would be leary of cheaping out here. Photos (and possibly videos) are really the only thing from that day that you will continually look back at. It's not like your wife will be wearing her wedding dress to formal events and you aren't likely to have your wedding cake decorating your living room for the next decade or two.