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Originally Posted by mykalberta
1 - How do you feel about a Friday wedding?
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Don't do it. Don't force your guests to take days away from work. When you send an invite most people feel an obligation to attend this important day and you sort of force them to use a vacation day.
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2 - How do you feel about a long weekend wedding?
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No problem. As a guest I prefer them as it allows you to actually visit with people for the weekend instead of rush in, attend wedding and rush home.
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3 - When it comes to first cousins, how do you weed them down to the number you want.
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Depends on finances, how close you are to them etc. With our families I had no problem inviting all first cousins as we all spent summers together as kids at grandparents houses and were close. If this is a huge concern for numbers it would be a case of how often do you see them and do you care if you do see them when you do.
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4 - If a first cousin got married and you werent invited because either A it was rushed due to an "unexpected bun in the oven" or B they are cheap and introverted and only had a justice of the peace marry them with their parents what is your obligation to invite them if you are inviting their siblings who invited you to the wedding?
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If I was close to that cousin I would have been invited. If I wasn't it wouldn't hurt my feelings knowing there are likely reasons. I admit it may get dicey if you invite a cousin that is a sibling though.
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5 - I have about 16 guests that I am not sure will come or not and I would rather not wait until 2 months before I know if they will come or not, are "save-the-date" letters acceptable forms of intial weeding out?
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Save the date won't weed much out as you are not likely to hear back from those that in the end won't make it. Easiest is to likely talk to them directly and get a yes or no.
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6 - What would you say are the top 10 highest costs for a wedding?
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depends on the wedding but typically catering will be high. Then of course the clothing and photography (we were lucky in that my wifes aunt is a professional photographer and did the entire event for material cost...we of course provided here with a nice gift and tip but it was far cheaper than if we hired someone else).
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7 - What are some of the questions you would ask the reception location/caterer?
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Make sure they will take care of what is important to you and your fiancee. It will be a stressful time so look for a place that will take a good chunk of that stress away by taking care of as many little details as possible.
Most importantly...references and lots of them.
oh and elope.