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Originally Posted by bcsoda
I do wonder if monogamy is a personal thing in the same way that sexual preference is. Not that it's something that you choose, but rather something that you're born with.
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I would very much agree that it's a personal thing in the same way that sexual preference is.
Although my mildly controversial stand on this is that sexual preferences are like most other things; a combination of genealogical and environmental issues.
Though sexual preference propably has more to do with genes, and relationship preferences more to do with upbringing and environment.
Both are also very much circumstancial in that at least some people will experience variation. In certain situations polygamy will feel natural, in others that same person might feel it's completely emotionally impossible.
I would also guess that most often people end up as "polyamoric" more or less accidentally and with little clear intention before it has already essentially happened. (Of course it requires some tendencies/attitudes, but those could be hidden to the people involved before they run into them head on.)
I can however say that when we met, my wife was quite the jealous type, and was firmly against anything other than strict monogamy. And now she isn't. A decade can do that to a person it seems.