I agree, that porn for men, graphic love stories for women, and other things that result in unrealistic expectations and/or objectifying of feelings and actions into physical representations certainly is not a good thing. However, I think these both do greater harm to individuals that are not in healthy relationships. Those in healthy relationships have ongoing real life experiences to keep themselves grounded, helping prevent an unrealistic portrayal of sex, relationships, behaviors, etc from being expected in real life. Some (but not nearly all) people that are not in such a relationship may become disconnected with what is realistic, which can certainly damage relationships if that disconnect results in expectations that are impossible to meet, potentially contributing to messy breakups.
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