That does seem pretty bad. My suggestion would be limiting your own personal contact with them, but making sure your wife knows she is fully supported by you whether she wants to continue seeing them or not. If she cares about her family, and it seems as though she does, she probably feels torn and unsupported from both sides. Even if they're the worst people on earth, they are still her family. From your perspective you think she is better off without them, which may or may not be true, but you shouldn't be the one to force it. Instead, try a soft-pedal approach - keep your distance and also try to limit negative conversations with your wife about them that might make you angry and in turn make her feel badly. It will probably be really hard, but if you can, try to stay objective when she talks about them, so she knows she's getting your unemotional opinion of each situation and not one that's based solely on your dislike for them. If you really feel like they are damaging her feeling of self worth, you could suggest that she spends a few sessions with a good psychologist. An impartial psychologist might help her see them as they actually are and could help guide her toward choosing a limited-contact scenario without your intervention. Good luck to you!
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