Just a note: If you get to the point where you need to be setting these boundaries, and they won't go with it, the hardest part will be getting your wife onboard and doing it in a manner that she doesn't feel like you are pushing her away from her parents.
I say this because I have a family member who has distanced herself from us by her actions due to something she perceived that we did (we didn't actually do it, but that's a whole other story). So my wife at first pressured me in very small ways to have nothing to do with her. Stuff like minor complaining if I was going to see her when I could have been doing homework, housework, or spending time with our kids, etc.
Long story short, even though her complaints were very minor, they really made me upset because it was forcing me to choose between 2 people I shouldn't need to choose between, as I felt they both needed to be part of my life.
tl;dr
If you need to shut them out, because they can't follow the guidelines you guys have set, then be understanding if your wife has a hard time with it, and be very careful that you don't do anything that seems like it is punishing her for it.
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