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Originally Posted by jaydorn
This. It's the first year of marriage, and possibly the daughter's first time living outside of her parent's home (I'm really just guessing here). This isn't about religion or alcohol, but boundaries, and communicating those boundaries to all parties.
Ultimately the relationship with the in-laws will be determined by your wife, but you do have input & a right to speak up. Particularly if they are disrespecting your home & family, while I don't recommend cutting them out of your life cut & dry, you are within your rights to say "You are always welcome in our home, provided you are respectful of the fact that it is our home, and not yours. Your daughter and I are capable of running our own lives and we expect to be given the room to do so"
Cutting them out of your life forever should be a last resort, you have to at least communicate to them that they are out of line and giving them an opportunity to correct this behaviour before renting the U-Haul.
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This is a great comment, I'd just like to add that this is a two way street. If you are trying to assert independence in your household, make sure you are truly independent. If you are letting them help you financially, or have already been allowing them to make a lot of decisions for you, it's going to be an uphill battle to relinquish that control.
Also, you guys are pretty newly married, these things have a way of working themselves out over time. My relationship with my in-laws is a lot different now after 7 years of marriage than it was when we first got married. I remember having some pretty similar feelings when we first established our family, this is a pretty natural handoff in responsibilities.