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Originally Posted by TheGrimm
I am shocked at how many people here are reading a half page summary of your situation and telling you to cut these people out of your life. How about less knee-jerk reaction and a bit more practical advice?
It sounds like your in-laws have some control issues with their child, some parents have a hard time giving up control in their kids lives. It looks like since they can't, you need to start taking that control back. This probably shouldn't be an all-at-once thing, and to be honest, this should probably come from your wife. She can be honest with her parents, and tell them that they need to respect your family unit and the decisions you are making, they don't have to agree, but they need to understand they can't force their will on you.
I obviously don't know your situation, but until you clearly state to them that they are offside, you aren't really giving them a chance to correct themselves.
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This. It's the first year of marriage, and possibly the daughter's first time living outside of her parent's home (I'm really just guessing here). This isn't about religion or alcohol, but boundaries, and communicating those boundaries to all parties.
Ultimately the relationship with the in-laws will be determined by your wife, but you do have input & a right to speak up. Particularly if they are disrespecting your home & family, while I don't recommend cutting them out of your life cut & dry, you are within your rights to say "You are always welcome in our home, provided you are respectful of the fact that it is our home, and not yours. Your daughter and I are capable of running our own lives and we expect to be given the room to do so"
Cutting them out of your life forever should be a last resort, you have to at least communicate to them that they are out of line and giving them an opportunity to correct this behaviour before renting the U-Haul.