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Originally Posted by saskflames69
I had a Jamaican friend that let us call him that. I didn't like it, and it made me feel uncomfortable because I knew what it meant.
However, I knew that word was unacceptable before I knew what it really meant. I have been calling my friends (and enemies) fags since the 3rd grade. I simply thought it was another acceptable way of saying "you're an arsehole" until I learned what it really meant in grade 7. After that I curbed my production of the word and only used it around my friends. Then they too learned what it meant and all hell broke loose.
Simply put, it's unfair to contrast the two situations. I knew that the n-word was bad before I learned what it meant but I tossed around the word fag for years before I was told what it actually meant. To me, a fag is somebody who's being a dumbass and an arsehole at the same time. Not somebody batting for the other team. That's the way it's been for me and everybody else I hang out with for as long as we can remember.
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It isn't unfair to compare the words because they do the same thing, degrade the people
I am not condemning you for it, because like you said, you didn't realize what was so bad about it, I was simply trying to point out what it was really saying when you said that.