Having spent years dealing with badly parented kids after growing up in a society where hitting kids was an acceptable hobby for any adult within reach of a child under 13 I can catagorically say that a good parent will be a good parent whether they hit their kid or not, a bad parent will be a bad parent regardless of how they punish.
What counts is love and stability, and of those stability is the most important, a kid can handle any punishment if he/she knows where when and why it is happening, it is inconsistancy that screws kids up which is why these days parents who hit tend to generally be lousy, after 40 years of being told we shouldn't hit the kids the only parents that do tend to be impulsive idiots who veer from utterly permissive to angry in a few seconds.
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