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I've definitely had issues with non-compliance with quiet times and time outs, but mostly that was only when we started to do them. Kids adapt to new structures pretty quick once they understand what's going on and as long as it's consistent.

The counting to 3 thing we incorporate as well to help focus his attention on the issue at hand. "Sit in quiet time quietly or you are going into timeout after a count of 3." After 3 if he won't go to timeout by himself I tell him he can either go by himself or I'll carry him (which he hates), so he usually goes.

Like undercoverbrother says knowing them really helps. My kid loves books and one time in timeout he threw his books all around, so we took them out of his room and then he earned them back in his room over time. And as he also says, staying calm and focused is so key, it doesn't work nearly as well if you are showing anger or frustration, and there's been times when I've had to put him in timeout "because dad is very angry right now and needs to go take a break and calm down", just like we try to teach him to walk away and take a break when his emotions are getting the best of him.

We went through a whole parenting course at one point because of the issues we were having (which ended up not being very effective after finding out he had Aspergers, and then finding out what kinds of strategies do actually work since consequences and that kind of thing just don't work).