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Originally Posted by Table 5
Legit question....How does a "time out" work? I didn't have those during my childhood, but it seems like everyone uses them these days. Does it mean they have to be silent for a few minutes or something? Do you send them to their room?
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undercoverbrother covered it. Time-outs are actually on the out a bit, now "quiet time" is more in vogue. Quiet time is removed from the situation and has to sit quietly for 2 minutes in a designated spot (usually the same spot in each general area). Doesn't remove them from everything and you are still around (so doesn't generate a "get away from me you are bad" vibe that a timeout can), but enough separation to know that what they did wasn't the right choice.
Time-outs are usually the next level of escalation after quiet time.
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Originally Posted by Red-Mile-DJ
To clear things up, I don't like the "time out" method. I don't think it teaches the child any consequences of their actions. But...that's just me.
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Sometimes there are no immediate consequences to actions other than some nebulous long term ones, so that's where quiet time and time out can be useful. When giving a direct instruction, go wash your hands, for example, there might be no other meaningful consequence.
But I agree, natural consequences or ones that derive logically from a situation usually work much better, but sometimes there aren't any (or can't think of one at the time).
Also can be used to help teach for self-regulation, sometimes behaviour is just because they're over-excited and a quiet time can help calm down. Having to sit on a chair for 2 minutes while his friends were swimming was very effective at reminding him to slow down and not run by the pool (where waiting for the natural consequence is probably not advisable
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