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Originally Posted by undercoverbrother
How will you know when that is?
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I suppose once I'm satisfied that my son can tell the difference between good and bad behaviour. If he out-right acts in a bad way (swearing, physically hitting someone, etc) then I'll bring spanking in as
ONE of the ways to discipline him.
Spanking shouldn't be the only way to discipline your child, but as a tool among other tools. "Time-outs", the "1, 2, 3" count and others should all be used, when appropriate.
I guess it all depends on the situation. But using spanking as the be-all and end-all of all disciplines is wrong, in my opinion.
My Dad only spanked, or gave us the belt, when we were REALLY bad.
Example: I was 7 or 8 and I was playing with my sister. I ended up taking a toy from her and made her cry. My Mom asked me to give it back to her. I told my Mom to "shut up." My Mom told me to apologize and explain to me why I needed to apologize and not tell people to "shut up." I told her "no" or whatever (basically being a brat), and my Dad came over and picked me up and took me to my room. He then gave me the belt.
I cried for a good 30 minutes. After I was done crying my parents came to the room and went over with me why I was given the belt, and what I should do. I apologized to my sister and that was that.
I have a vivid memory of this, because it taught me discipline, respect and the consequences of what could happen if I disobeyed.