I think this is a very interesting discussion and support a lot of what TBQH has said. The difficulty in some way is that we can not understand what is going on until we look at all of our biases. The whole argument has been framed from the perspective of gender politics.
No one (and I think I've seen all of the posts) has just suggested shelters for victims of domestic violence which would not be women's shelters or men's but rather a victims shelter for both genders. They are referred to as men's shelters and women's shelters. Now there may be some good psychological reasons to have separate shelters but I've not even seen the issue discussed. Understanding this as primarily an issue of gender based socio-politics would not allow consideration of different gender victims of domestic violence to be in the same facility.
I think this will change. Does a gay abused man go to a men's shelter where he is exposed to other people the same gender as his abuser or a lesbian to a woman's shelter. I'd argue that the needs of a victim of domestic violence will be more similar than different regardless of the gender.
There is no doubt that the feminist movement has resulted in a tremendous needed movement towards equality. However looking at the world through only one lens may blind us to other possible solutions to problems.
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