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Originally Posted by meanmachine13
Throughout university, I would meet people online and go out to meet them in person after talking to them for a while. It worked in the sense that it allowed me to hang out with them without having bad anxiety, but in the long run it doesnt work.
All my conversations revolved around what we talked about online. When I try to make spontaneous conversations, as normal people would do, I would feel the anxiety coming forth. I am not used to starting or maintaining conversations in person, so its overwhelming to even try! Thats why when I am hanging out with new people or groups, I am the quiet one, which makes people think I am not having fun and dont often ask me to come out with them anymore.
For some reason, the only place I can find myself to be loud, is at hockey. I can talk to anyone at hockey (new player on the team, other teams players, refs, etc). I guess its just my comfort zone.
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Maybe your thinking about it too much. After i got over my anxiety, i realized that not talking is ok. I mean if you have nothing to say what can you do? it will always feel and seem forced if it is! you just have to try and gain self confidence and be comfortable with yourself.
I know I maybe making it seem easy and I know its not, I use to have bad anxiety as well. But once you gain self confidence everything just becomes so much easier!