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Of course marriages take work, relationships in general take work. Friendships take work.
That doesn't change the fact that people can and do grow apart. No amount of 'work' is going to change that.
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I guess that's where we can disagree.
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I'll ask you to clarify what exactly you are alluding to when you say "this attitude towards marriage is why we are where we are right now". Where are we right now?
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Personally I think the stats speak for themselves. 50% divorce rate? crazy if you ask me. I'm sure there's more information out there to break it down further into age categorys and such. What I feel is that marriages should not be started in the first place if the two individuals getting married aren't committed to working on it.....for better or worse....richer or poorer. You made the statement that people just "grow apart". I agree, there are ups and downs in any relationship. (just wanted to say that I do not think a couple should stay together in a abusive relationship)
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It shouldn't be a 'goal' to get married, and getting divorced shouldn't be considered a 'failure'.
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Neither of which I said.
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There are plenty of people in very long term commitments who aren't married that have happy, fulfilling relationships with each other.
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Off topic but I agree.
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Your comment has the underlying tone that married > not married, and that really irks me.
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Some people shouldn't marry that's for sure. Not sure where you get the whole "its better to be married bit" from me......want to clarify?