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Originally Posted by TorqueDog
Of course marriages take work, relationships in general take work. Friendships take work.
That doesn't change the fact that people can and do grow apart. No amount of 'work' is going to change that.
I'll ask you to clarify what exactly you are alluding to when you say "this attitude towards marriage is why we are where we are right now". Where are we right now? It shouldn't be a 'goal' to get married, and getting divorced shouldn't be considered a 'failure'. There are plenty of people in very long term commitments who aren't married that have happy, fulfilling relationships with each other. Your comment has the underlying tone that married > not married, and that really irks me.
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I'm not debating that, people shouldn't stay in a bad marriage.
But (voice of experience here) you don't enter into a marriage ever expecting it to go bad. I didn't propose until I thought it was going to be forever. And when it does end it is a painful experience. Yes, it needed to end for the sake of both of our long term happiness, but if you both went in with the best of intentions it is NEVER a fun process to go through.
So I'm probably just remembering a bit of past pain and that isn't something I enjoy seeing anyone experience.
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