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Originally Posted by moon

I would like to see where anyone has said they don't need help and do it all themselves.

It was tough, but I found it like five posts above yours.

Originally Posted by freedogger

I have life and disability insurance, a six month emergency fund and other forms of insurance. I have worked many times when injured without issue - broken kneecap, jaw surgery, broken hand... I am set up to work from home, and working any hour of the day is acceptable. My client/employer can take my wage and send it over to someone else who will do my job if I leave or drastically cut back my hours. I have also trained people up on my work and they have taken over projects I have completed or partially finished in the past. There should be no ill will, a good reference and a job available in most cases if I have to take time off for decent reasons. Most of your scenarios above would allow me time to transition my duties before I left.

There are no co-workers that will take a hit if things go south in my world.

Yes it is pretty stark for me, be a star employee or throw in the towel. Without kids, I could slack off or putt along without any worry. From what I have seen, some employers do realize the stakes are higher and see breadwinners as more committed.

I'm not complaining about it, I chose this life and like it better than the one I had before all of this responsibility. In my situation the "your work colleague's are pulling part of your share now that you have young kids" line is total BS.