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Originally Posted by Sliver
Funny how we all rally around to help Mayer pay for his dog's surgery (myself included, CP's resident dog lover), but suggest some parents may need a couple extra breaks to look after their infants and you can GTFO.
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What you simply don't seem to be grokking is that most folks don't mind helping out, watching for a co-worker, covering, whatever. Most of the folks out there understand that "Life Happens" (tm) and they may need a hand covering it. What most folks DON'T want to hear is that someone feels entitled to this for ANY reason. "You have to cover for me because it's your responsibility because I am a manic depressive". "You have to cover for me because I'm a hypochondriac and have to go to the hospital again." These sorts of reasons will irritate people just as much as the "I have kids so the world must bow to me" line you are trying to feed us. Of late, and of course, this is purely anecdotal, in the work force it seems that folks with children are taking advantage of this. Hell, your own anecdotes about paying this lady in your employ for hours she misses due to her kids simply reinforces this. Would you do this for someone who didn't have kids, for instance?
Think back before you had kids. Did you like not getting a weekend off because "so and so has a family, and the weekend is family time." or "You have to work overtime, because so and so can't because they have to go get their kids from/take them to hockey/ballet/soccer/whatever." Did you like feeling like your life didn't matter because you didn't have kids? Did you like feeling like your family (and a family does not have to include kids to be a family...) was second-rate because you didn't have kids? Did you like it being assumed that you could work any extra and/or holidays because "you don't have a family"?
And folks with kids have to wonder why those without them are getting tired of this.