[Sylvanfan]

I would agree that the issue here is more with the supervisor. I can appreciate the frustration, and no doubt you need to make sure there is something in it for your efforts. When you offer to bend over backwards for your company, often they bend you over and instead of appreciating your efforts, it becomes the expectation.

Also with the mail it in factor, that's BS. In certain jobs with certain levels of responsibility, your obligation is to complete your tasks. When you know you'll be away for any period of time, you complete your work, and don't sluff things off on others. To me that's a character issue and not a paternity issue. Your children will become a responsibility that far out weighs what work throws your way.

I do think employers do have to make an effort to help employees who do have children. But the employees themselves have to be worthy of being afforded the extra gratitude.