[Springs1]

Originally Posted by flames_1987

The best part of this is her trying to play it off as people coming onto her blog to agree with her, when it's clearly her and the exact same writing style OF CAPS LOCK in random places.

Then here she started to see where I was coming from:

Springs, to be 100% honest, that blog was the first one I have ever written. I'm looking for a new paralegal job and I was on job websites when I saw an ad for "hub pages: make money at home writing". I thought, "Hey, what the hell. I'll check it out". So I'm trying to figure out what to write about, and then it came to me. "Stef, write about what you hate about work". And I did it off the top of my head based on random irritants from the prior weekend. Then I got your comments and I was SOOOO pissed!!! But all you knew about me was my 20 minute bitch session. And you kept calling me lazy. I couldn't go to sleep so I had to grab another beer to calm down. After reading my blog, I understand why you thought that. That's why I called it a "confession", cause if I waited on you, you'd never in a million years think that I was annoyed with anything. I am a really nice person, but I have my bad days, and when I have my bad days at work I have to keep it in and pretend like everything's awesome. I used this blog to vent some frustration and was kind of looking for some other servers to join in and vent with me. But I wasn't trying to condone any bad behavior toward guests. I'm new to this. Maybe I really should focus on the positive rather than the negative. You're a woman and you know when you've had a rough weekend and you're pushed to your limits and you just can't take one more person asking for one more thing of you.
I definitely know where you're coming from with servers, though. I will agree that 90% of our servers ARE lazy. They drive me crazy; as lazy as they are with their tables (who are providing their tips), imagine how lazy they are when it's time to do sidework and help clean the restaurant. They're always on their cell phones, outside smoking cigarettes, flirting with the cooks, when they should be paying attention to their guests. And I bet they get your orders wrong all the time because you're right-they are lazy. They expect a 20% tip always. They wonder why they get "stiffed" on a tip sometimes. It's because they didn't deserve a tip!
That's why I said that I don't want other servers taking my food out. I don't trust them at all. They don't read the kitchen slips, they bring a steak out without a steak knife, they forget sides, and they auction off food. It ends up costing me more time cause not only do I have to apologize for their order delivery not being correct, but I still have to go back to the kitchen and get whatever they forgot. And god forbid that the guest asks THEM for something because not only will they not get it, but they won't even have the courtesy to tell me what the table wanted.
I go out to eat whenever my boyfriend have time, which is not very often, and I absolutely agree with you that most servers are very lazy. I don't request much; I'm pretty simple when it comes to ordering, as well as my boyfriend, but I do request my steaks AS RARE AS POSSIBLE. Now, what are the odds that I'm going to get a true rare steak? About 50/50,which is ridiculous.
I always critique my servers, and my boyfriend gets pissed, but I expect my server to provide me with good service. I'm a little different with my requests, though.
Here are my problems:
The server should know which wines are available on the wine list. Know what you're out of. I don't know how many times I ordered a bottle of wine and the server comes back and says, "sorry, we're out of that". The server should know what alcohol is available; it is just as bad as not having a particular food item.
Another big problem I have: I like to take my time; obviously if I'm ordering a bottle of wine I want to sit and relax. I tell the server ahead of time that I do not want them to put the food order in right away, and I want plenty of time between courses. Exception to this is if it's a busy night, but since I always work weekends it's usually on a Monday or Tuesday and restaurants aren't busy so it's no big deal to sit long and take up that space. Plus, the way we order when we go out, we spend a lot and I let the server know that I'm also a server so that waiter or waitress has a good inclination that it's gonna be a good tip. But my food still comes out fast.
Also, dishes are hardly ever cleared between courses. And wine service is almost never up to par. The server should be around to fill my glass, like I do with my guests. Now, I admit that I'm not around every time they need their glasses to be filled, but I at least try to fill once around appetizer time and once while they're eating dinner (when I check back to see how everything is)-which, by the way, is TWO minutes after the dinner is brought out, not when I'm almost finished. Also, I do not appreciate the female servers flirting with my boyfriend. I'm a pretty good looking girl (so I think) and when I wait on a couple, I stand closer to the female, and ALWAYS pay more attention to her. If the couple is joking with me, I ALWAYS take the girl's side on ANY issue, as to not offend the woman. Some of these skanky girls flirt with him, thinking that he's paying and he'll leave her a bigger tip. Couldn't be further from the truth, though, cause if I pay, I leave the tip, and if he pays, I leave the tip as well. He's an IT guy and leaves the tipping to me. So flirting with my boyfriend will only decrease your tip.
Anyway, sorry to get you upset over my blog. I was just blowing off some steam. And please know that there really are some good servers out there who want you to have a good time when you go out. We are out there; we may be few and far between, but we do exist.