This was interesting, it seemed really unfortunate but check out the comments:
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/26/bu...it_th_20120526
About 8 years ago when I thought civil union was OK what's the big deal about calling it marriage, a good friend said it's a little like when black people had to ride in the back of the bus. You're all going to the same place so why does it matter if you have to ride inthe back? That's when I got it. Human rights shouldn't be subject to referendum, the majority can and sometimes do vote against minority rights.