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Originally Posted by sun
I'm sorry, but this is just sad. You don't get along with people because of how they dress? How unbelievably shallow.
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What does how long a person takes to get ready have to do with how they dress?
I think he is more saying he's not friends with vain, high maintenence people who are more concerned with image than personality.
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I take issue with a few things here. hulkrogan is getting married to a girl. OP is not. OP is asking for help. hulkrogan obviously doesn't need any. Dressing well helps. Period. He's trying to increase his odds. Dressing like a slob decreases them. Sure, you could end up with a Zetterburg in the 7th round, but that doesn't mean a rebuilding team should trade away all their 1st-6th rounders.
Since when does dressing differently make you fake? It doesn't change who you are. Will you wear a suit at a wedding, funeral, job interview? Of course. You're not a phony for doing that. You're respecting the situation and dressing accordingly. You are the same book regardless of the cover.
I don't think anyone here is suggesting that he go to the bar in a tuxedo. Just that some nice jeans and a button-up shirt will increase his odds of standing out among the ubiquitous blue tank tops and havaianas of the Australian locals.
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I'm not sure what a job interview or funeral have to do with this. In fact, that says a lot if you view meeting women no differently than you do a funeral.
I'm saying that if he's more of a casual guy, don't go all D&G (or whatever) just because you think it'll make you more popular with the ladies. You may end up attracting the wrong kind of girl. Also, once again I'm only talking about relationship girls. If one night stands is your goal then dress up as the ####ing easter bunny if that's what it takes.
I'm more of a jeans and a tshirt kinda guy. I've always been complimented on how I dress. That being said as I've gotten older I've refined my look a bit. Nicer shirts, less baggy jeans, nicer jackets instead of just hoodies. But that was a decision I made.
I think it is more important to focus on how to meet girls, not how for him to attract girls. Big difference. Sounds like the OP needs to just take that leap and go out and get shot down a whole buncha times and maybe strike out a few times to hone his game. Maybe he knocks one out of the park and it sparks his confidence.
One thing is true regardless of how you dress, if you don't try you'll never succeed.