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Originally Posted by Sliver
So if you have an opinion about something that you know will hurt them in some way, and telling them won't help them at all, would you still give your opinion? If so, I probably wouldn't want you around either. Little white lies to people are necessary, I've found. Especially if your default opinion is negative (mine often is). I get along way better with people if I keep my negativity to myself and am more positive around them. CP is where I let my negativity shine.  |
I think you bring up something that is valid that I did not communicate properly.
As my wife says, I normally don't say much unless it is a 'teaching moment'. If someone comes to me and asks me some advice, I tell them what i think will best help them, I don't just tell them something that will make them feel all warm and fuzzy inside. That doesn't mean I don't try and be diplomatic to some extent, but I know that I am not always successful.
Its not like I say "Hey, I think you should do this with that problem you are having, and by the way you are a bitch too." Being rude and hurtful, just for the sake of being rude and hurtful is not what I am about, but I won't deny that sometimes my social ineptness might make it come across that way.