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Originally Posted by FLAMESRULE
Agreed on being diplomatic, acting like a ######bag, etc and not turning into a sociopath...I would consider my personality quite normal / average. However, there are certain times when you need to show a backbone and not relent to the guilt / shame or other emotion that people will use to try and "force" you to change your mind because it would be easier on them.
Backstory: Grandpa is a drunk + emotionally abuses lots of people in his life including his wife and children. I finally had enough and said I'm done with them in my life and wont be attending any functions they are at becuase I do not condone their actions or behaviour. Cue family onslaught that this is the worst decision ever. I would never be able to look at myself the same if I give in too family pressure because I feel very strongly that something needs to change to stop the abuse. I dont feel ashamed for it at all, however, getting martyred sucks and it would be much easier to relent.
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Family and friends are on the same level as far as I'm concerned. "You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family" isn't necessarily true on a practical level.
There are lots of relatives I wouldn't associate with in normal circumstances so why would I associate with them just because somewhere in the dark past we apparently have some random connection through someone else's loins?
Once you move out of your home area, its easy to ignore the one's who deserve it and keep in touch with the one's you like.
And by the way, a bunch of them are probably categorizing you the same way.
Don't sweat the small stuff. Live happy.
Cowperson