Agreed on being diplomatic, acting like a ######bag, etc and not turning into a sociopath...I would consider my personality quite normal / average. However, there are certain times when you need to show a backbone and not relent to the guilt / shame or other emotion that people will use to try and "force" you to change your mind because it would be easier on them.
Backstory: Grandpa is a drunk + emotionally abuses lots of people in his life including his wife and children. I finally had enough and said I'm done with them in my life and wont be attending any functions they are at becuase I do not condone their actions or behaviour. Cue family onslaught that this is the worst decision ever. I would never be able to look at myself the same if I give in too family pressure because I feel very strongly that something needs to change to stop the abuse. I dont feel ashamed for it at all, however, getting martyred sucks and it would be much easier to relent.
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