[Maritime Q-Scout]

I'd say helping is the right thing to do, I don't know what would make people let things go the the point that the house is that bad, however it does happen in some cases.

I believe in helping whenever and when ever possible (sometimes doing nothing is helping). I'd say helping clean and get their affairs into order is perfectly fine, hell I'd be doing the same thing.

I would talk to them about it though, in a calm polite manner. Say you don't want to see anything like that happen again, and if you feel upto checking in every so often that's cool, if not, that's cool too.

I try and be the kind of person that will drop anything if a friend needs me (dropped writing a paper once, and passed it in late because a friend needed me). I would talk it though, and see if you can find out how it got to that point, and offer them suggestions and alternatives on how to change. The last thing you want to be doing right now is telling them what to do, but giving options is the best way to give advice IMO, that way people are still choosing for themselves, and they still have to weight pros/cons/consequences etc.