I agree with what people say with the kudos for helping part. And in my mind the reason why everybody is saying kudos is that fact that this isn't your responsibility. I think about my circle of friends, and there's people who I would get involed with, but for others like as you describe as "casual acquaintances" I would be inclined to offer some labour to help them with the current situation, but not to be the one who has to come up with a permanent solution.
You mention that these people consider you to be a good friend; I ask you what they have done for you to show their friendship? I'm not saying they have to be doing things for you all the time, but I know that I do stuff for my friends, and then when I need help they are always willing to help me out. It never works out 100% even, but friendship is a 2 way street.
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