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Originally Posted by Cowboy89
For whatever reason even from my perspective this article makes a lot of sense.
If you buy into the theory that everyone prefers to date someone who is 'better than them' then of course well to do, well educated women will find it hard to find men who meet and exceed their expectations. Partly because it's totally true that a large component of the the 20s - early 30s male bracket has seemed to have checked out and made lifestyles centered around adolescent pastimes and aspirations.
But another part of it is that these overly critical women do in fact need to get over themselves, get a better attitude and become more approachable. Maybe I'm a misogynist, but I find that in the professional world Gen Y woman seem to get a higher sense of accomplishment and self-actualization out of their career status, moreso than Gen Y men in simlar circles. These women build up these 'Sex and the City' like complexes where they think they're a lot sexier, classier, and savvier then reality and that extends into their expectations about their dating life and the men who occupy it.
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What's funny to me is that there seems to be a negative connotation with men doing what they like.
Women seem to attribute it to adult aged boys, when in reality that is what men are like. They like their toys, they like dressing casual, having fun, being immature (by their father and grandfather's standards) etc.
I'm not gonna pretend like there aren't a lot of guys who are concerned with their appearance, their social status, financial status, how nice their car is compared to others etc. There are certainly a lot of guys who have become metro and who are in that "Sex and the City" mode of having to have status and money to find a woman.
On the other hand, a lot of guys have said #### it and realized that they'd rather be single or at least not settle down, in favor of living the way they want. A lot of this has to do with the increasing career and status focus of women. Men have realized that lots of women are more concerned with things that provide a lot of image satisfaction but not a ton of personal satisfaction.
My list of goals doesn't include being spotted at the trendiest restaurants or coffee shops or buying a nicer car than my neighbors or shopping at the fanciest stores. I am happy wearing a pair of jeans, tshirt and a hat and playing xbox with my buddies. The idea that this is some sort of adolescent lifestyle is misleading. Who determines that? Are we really going to judge ourselves from the standards of generations previously that all men need to be stoic and super serious 24/7?
Women have been stereotyped (rightly or wrongly) that they always want to find a man who has a higher status than them. This is usually determined by financial status.
The problem is that as they've reached higher and higher of status levels themselves, it has cut out a significant portion of the population. At the same time the above scenario I talked about with men becoming more and more "themselves" has led to women believing that they can't find a man.