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zukes · 01-05-2012, 08:32 AM

It really is the most rewarding thing I have ever experienced...twice. You will adapt to the lack of sleep and the change in your life as long as you remember that you love the child. That's not to say it won't be hard, but in a couple years you will look back and realize it wasn't all that hard.

I can only give advice for your future, as my son will be 5 in May and my daughter will be 3 in June, and like I said, we just adapted when our kids were younger, heeding all advice that we were given, but trying our own ideas in the situations as they occurred.

My advice is just to love your children and try to steer them in the right direction. You ultimately do not control what they do in their lives, they will decide that. As a parent, you just try to show them what you perceive to be the right and wrong ways to do things.

Always make time for your kids, I find that to be the hardest thing, but it is something that I learned from my dad in a weird way. My dad barely made time for me growing up, he was too busy drinking, but the times that he did as a young kid, were so special. My dad, with all of his faults that I would learn about later in life, was still the #1 guy in the world I wantd to spend time with as a kid.

I try my hardest to spend every moment I can with my kids, even doing things like grocery shopping is a family thing, just so that we are all together. I hope to keep that going a lot longer, and far more frequently than my dad did. It means that "me time" doesn't really start until the kids go to bed. Now, obviously things come up that make that impossible, but I try my hardest to adhere to spending as much time as possible with my kids.

01-05-2012, 08:32 AM	#138
zukes Nostradamus Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: London Ont. Exp:	It really is the most rewarding thing I have ever experienced...twice. You will adapt to the lack of sleep and the change in your life as long as you remember that you love the child. That's not to say it won't be hard, but in a couple years you will look back and realize it wasn't all that hard. I can only give advice for your future, as my son will be 5 in May and my daughter will be 3 in June, and like I said, we just adapted when our kids were younger, heeding all advice that we were given, but trying our own ideas in the situations as they occurred. My advice is just to love your children and try to steer them in the right direction. You ultimately do not control what they do in their lives, they will decide that. As a parent, you just try to show them what you perceive to be the right and wrong ways to do things. Always make time for your kids, I find that to be the hardest thing, but it is something that I learned from my dad in a weird way. My dad barely made time for me growing up, he was too busy drinking, but the times that he did as a young kid, were so special. My dad, with all of his faults that I would learn about later in life, was still the #1 guy in the world I wantd to spend time with as a kid. I try my hardest to spend every moment I can with my kids, even doing things like grocery shopping is a family thing, just so that we are all together. I hope to keep that going a lot longer, and far more frequently than my dad did. It means that "me time" doesn't really start until the kids go to bed. Now, obviously things come up that make that impossible, but I try my hardest to adhere to spending as much time as possible with my kids. __________________ agggghhhhhh!!!