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Originally Posted by Ace
In this instance I would decline the invitation, and send them a gift I can afford with the RSVP stating I can't attend, but wish them congratulations (this is assuming it's not immidiate family, or a VERY close friend)
I always ensure I give cash, and at least the amount it cost for me and my spouse to attend the dinner. I remember what it is like starting out and I don't want anyone burdened after the wedding because of the costs of said wedding (even if it was their choice).
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If it is such a burden - it is their choice - not yours. If they want to be overly lavish, it is up to them and it should not affect the size of the gift.
I don't understand such materialistic attitudes. Weddings aren't occasions that should be treated like balance sheets, they are meant to be about people getting married amongst the people they care about. If you don't care enough to be there - fine, but other than that, the whole point of it is being lost.