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afc wimbledon · 12-01-2011, 10:06 AM

Nothing to do with a point of law here but I will chime in a bit with my thoughts, when my wife and I divorced my major fear was that she would take my daughter and move back to Winnipeg where she came from, she didn't thank god but you see these basket case kids that get sent across the country to spend time with their parents in the summer, screws everyone up involved.

If you and your now wife want to do the best for her child, assuming the father had some involvement in the lads life, then you should live near him in BC.
You will probably not like this advice, I will point out though that in a few years time when you and your wife have children, if, God forbid, it doesn't work out, how will you feel if she decides to move back to BC with your kids to be closer to her parents or the like.

When approaching this try to think what is best for your step son, bearing in mind this other guy is, and always will be, his dad and an important part of his life, try to behave towards him the way you would like your wife to behave towards you if there was a problem in the future and remember, what ever you do you will have to justify to a surly pissed off teenager in about ten years time, make damn sure you are not trying to explain why you effed up his life and took his dad away from him.

Trust me on this as well, there is nothing so bad as lying in bed at night sobbing in the fear that you might have your kid taken away from you and dragged across the country, I truely wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy and I hope you never have to go through it.

12-01-2011, 10:06 AM	#11
afc wimbledon Franchise Player Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: east van Exp:	Nothing to do with a point of law here but I will chime in a bit with my thoughts, when my wife and I divorced my major fear was that she would take my daughter and move back to Winnipeg where she came from, she didn't thank god but you see these basket case kids that get sent across the country to spend time with their parents in the summer, screws everyone up involved. If you and your now wife want to do the best for her child, assuming the father had some involvement in the lads life, then you should live near him in BC. You will probably not like this advice, I will point out though that in a few years time when you and your wife have children, if, God forbid, it doesn't work out, how will you feel if she decides to move back to BC with your kids to be closer to her parents or the like. When approaching this try to think what is best for your step son, bearing in mind this other guy is, and always will be, his dad and an important part of his life, try to behave towards him the way you would like your wife to behave towards you if there was a problem in the future and remember, what ever you do you will have to justify to a surly pissed off teenager in about ten years time, make damn sure you are not trying to explain why you effed up his life and took his dad away from him. Trust me on this as well, there is nothing so bad as lying in bed at night sobbing in the fear that you might have your kid taken away from you and dragged across the country, I truely wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy and I hope you never have to go through it. Last edited by afc wimbledon; 12-01-2011 at 10:14 AM.