I Just turned 31 this summer, and I thought that I would be like the normal family, married with 2.5 kids living in a house with a white picket fence... but, it didn't happen like that... Not even close
I know what the OP is going through, I used to be stressed out and anxious about finding a relationship that would eventually lead to marriage. I realized that all that was pushing them away, I was looking for someone that would fill a void rather then, as cliche as it sounds, compliment me. Be my equal. And like other's, I want an attractive girl, someone that takes care of herself, has a good career, and genuinely enjoys life. Figure if I want that, then those are qualities that I have to start working on in myself. Like attracts like.
And living in Vancouver in the past, I've run across many "gold diggers," and I used to think the way you did, but then I started establishing boundaries with women that I dated, and if they wanted to stay with me great, if not, oh well. But a lot of times they respected you for it. I learned that if you give to early in the relationship, then they start to expect it, and then when you don't give as much they get upset and start exhibiting "gold digger" behaviour. That has been my experience.
That being said, I'm happy being single. Starting a music production company so it's nice cause I can focus 100% on building my business and getting that off the ground, and if the right one wanders into my path then great, but until then I'm just going to have fun playing
So don't stress dood, everything happens in it's time. Just go out, have fun, and enjoy life!!
And as one poster said, just go out and be awesome