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Originally Posted by mykalberta
I am aware of the situation you speak of.
You are 30, you start dating women closer to your age - more "mature" maybe in the right frame of mind for a relationship, but they all seem to be crazy gold diggers.
Then you say screw it I dont care if anyone calls me a cradle robber and you date the 22-24 group, then you get so tired of them acting their age and hate the fact you have to in essence act like a parent in the relationship because they are just so ditzy that you wonder how the he77 you will ever meet anyone normal.
While I myself have been fortunate enough not to meet alot of gold diggers, I have met alot of women with - how shall we say excess baggage, at the moment I am unwilling to take on baggage that isnt my own - trust me there are alot of women out there with +1's.
I too had the 30 and married goal in mind, it just hasnt worked out. I will say be aware of the people who say "enjoy the single life" that is true to an extent but dont allow your enjoyment for the single life (aka the extremely self centered and lazy life IMO) to chart your path if you have something more in mind.
Just dont go into the marriage thought process as its something I should do, if you dont want to to do it, dont - they are right, it isnt for everyone.
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There are plenty of women out there with good jobs who are not gold diggers. In this day and age, it's difficult to have a career before your late 20s. Therefore, a lot of women in the 28-32 range are single, looking to settle down, and have their own money. You probably won't meet them at 1:45 AM at the club though.
From what I've seen from my single friends, the internet (plentyoffish etc.) seems like a fantastic way to meet someone. You get the advantage of an initial screening process that you can use to judge compatibilty. Also, a lot of quality women don't want to meet guys at clubs.
I think it's possible to meet quality women at bars, but you have to be fairly sober when you do it. Look for the women who are either also sober or who obviously don't go to the bars that often. Women out on friends bdays/stags are often fairly high quality. It's the bar stars that should be avoided (obviously), especially if they are in the permanent relationship stage, late 20s or older.