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Originally Posted by dissentowner
I wasn't happily shagging her, something i used failed and here I am. Mt oldest son is living with me, when we were together she didn't really want him living with us because him and her 7 year old would act up. I was unhappy with her when she got pregnant, was ready to leave her. I messed up and was dumb and now I have gotten myself in a mess.
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Couple of lessons you need to learn from this, it is for your sons sake but works well for you as well. No more women in his life, I don't care what that means to you, he needs some stability and thus far you have shown a lack of ability to pick stable women. If someone comes along you love they will wait, if they wont wait you don't want them in your kids life anyway. If you have dated someone successfully for 2 or 3 years maybe they get to meet your kid, but not in your house or overnights or the like please.
You also need to realise you have gotten 2 kids and her into a mess as well, granted she made her bed with you, but the kids didn't and your focus is how to minimise the damage you have done to them. You need to get a lawyer, you don't have to pay her half your salary, you have to pay her what the court orders, based on your income and number of kids, it used to be about 10 or 15% of your salary though that may have changed.
Important question, how does your oldest son feel about all this? he has just lost a mum of sorts and is in danger of losing his brother.
My best guess is you need to start planning for the worst not just hoping things work out.