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Street Pharmacist · 10-09-2011, 11:29 PM

I remember your story. I have a similar situation, but approached it this way:

We sat down and promised to talk in a civil manner. I listed all the objective issues we had and tried to agree on possible solutions. I know it sounds like crap, but open communication helped us. Things took a bit to settle down, but we have a fantastic relationship now (doesn't hurt that she also makes a point to be reasonable). The other thing was learning to bite my tongue. I didn't like her choice to give our 7 year old son an eminem cd for his birthday, but difficult decisions abound and big picture is more important.

Sounds like she's hurt and is expressing it by acting "crazy". Until that subsides, you will have to be the calm one. Like it or not, you guys have a relationship for the next 18 years or more. Bite your tongue and keep offering reasonable solutions. DON'T get caught up in the acting out or it will get worse

Also, get your child support amount in writing with her signing and keep prof of payment. Back pay would be awful.

10-09-2011, 11:29 PM	#14
Street Pharmacist Franchise Player Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Salmon with Arms Exp:	I remember your story. I have a similar situation, but approached it this way: We sat down and promised to talk in a civil manner. I listed all the objective issues we had and tried to agree on possible solutions. I know it sounds like crap, but open communication helped us. Things took a bit to settle down, but we have a fantastic relationship now (doesn't hurt that she also makes a point to be reasonable). The other thing was learning to bite my tongue. I didn't like her choice to give our 7 year old son an eminem cd for his birthday, but difficult decisions abound and big picture is more important. Sounds like she's hurt and is expressing it by acting "crazy". Until that subsides, you will have to be the calm one. Like it or not, you guys have a relationship for the next 18 years or more. Bite your tongue and keep offering reasonable solutions. DON'T get caught up in the acting out or it will get worse Also, get your child support amount in writing with her signing and keep prof of payment. Back pay would be awful.